Learning to Embrace the Suck

 

No beauty discussions today, people. I have some disheartening news to share with you: Life is hard.

I really wish I didn’t have to be the one to break that news to you. I really wish it wasn’t true. But if I’ve learned anything in the last 30 years, I’ve learned that life is hard. Sometimes it’s really hard. Various seasons and transitions in your life, even people, will utterly suck. There’s no cave to hide in, no river to cross, and no mountain to climb to avoid the occasional, but certain suck you will experience at one time or another. (Oh, so you wanted to reach a goal, too? Well that’s double the suck. Enjoy that, pumpkin.)

Unfortunately, it doesn’t stop there. With that terrible news I offer this caveat: Life becomes exponentially harder when you attempt to avoid the suck. (Stop looking for that cave. You’re embarrassing yourself.)

Even knowing this, I’m still guilty of trying to avoid the suck. I do it all the time. I put off writing that paper for school. I convince myself that working out when it’s raining is silly. I watch Netflix when I should be studying. I only put lotion on the skin that’s showing because I have long limbs and ain’t nobody got time for that. I’ll probably delete that last example later. Laziness is real.

I’m learning to embrace the suck.

  • A Master’s degree requires paper writing the suck.
  • A toned body requires exercise the suck.
  • A successful blog requires consistent blogging the suck.
  • Healthy relationships require occasionally picking up the phone the suck.
  • A life without back fat requires avoiding Taco Bell the suck.
  • Earning a paycheck requires showing up to work instead of going to the beach the suck.

Are you picking up on a theme here? It really doesn’t matter what road you’re on, dear. There’s no getting around the suck. You either go through it, or you stand still. You cannot skip past winter to enjoy spring sooner. I tried it a few times (theoretically speaking). It only made winter (the suck) last longer.

Life is beautiful, but it’s hard. Change is hard, and it usually sucks for a little (or long) while. I’ve set so many goals and failed to see them through to completion because I bailed at the first sign of suck. No more.

You are strong enough, smart enough, and have everything you need to withstand the suck. The suck is a necessary but temporary discomfort on the road to any place worthwhile. The suck is not your enemy. Those negative, self-limiting beliefs and the spirit of laziness, are. Embrace the suck.

What does your suck look like?

Until next time. I’m rooting for you.

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